Who's fault is it, anyway?

One thought that seems to permeate the loss of a job is who's fault is it anyway? In today's society it seems so many folks play the blame game. We tend to find excuses or blame others for our current situation. Did you ever think that maybe it just wasn't in the stars for you? Unfortunately many people accept a job for the wrong reasons and never realize that until we leave, whether at their behest or our own.

One suggestion is to spend some time grieving then say to yourself that this has opened an opportunity for you. Allowing you to move to your next opportunity in life and usually much better anyway.

Dad used to say that "everything happens for the best". Now that is a simple statement but why look for a more clever or wordier statement. Move on, step out and see what is awaiting you.

Loss of Job

Let's be frank here. The loss of a job, whether by your choice, or their choice is a traumatic event in your life. Even when you know it is going to happen it ranks right up there with a death in the family, marriage, newborn, buying a house or catastrophic illness. In order to pass through this phase you need to grieve. We all do it our own way. Don't overlook this important part of the job loss.
Hint-Talking about it to friends is a great start, get it out of your system.

Positive Attitudes

This is a topic that arises all the time. One's attitudes is directly connected to ones success. We may think we are being positive and put on our best smile. I have found humans ability to see beneath the surface is extraordinary. As a matter of fact it is amazing that we don't always realize that we have that ability.
When we are speaking to others we emit signs of our feelings. A major way to have that positive attitude is to think positive. Talk with others and work towards positiveness. We all have negative events occurring in our lives. The game here is to look for the positive and and be thankful for what we DO have. Remember the old cliche of the half full glass of water.

Mackay on networking

Mackay Maxims

Words to build a network -- and a life by...

Mackay Maxim -- People aren’t strangers if you’ve already met them. The trick is to meet them Before you need their help.

Mackay Maxim -- If everyone in your network is the same as you, it’s not a network, it’s an anthill.

Mackay Maxim -- In networking, you’re only as good as what you give away.

Mackay Maxim -- Cream doesn’t rise to the top, it works its way up.

Mackay Maxim -- 2am is a lousy time to try to make new friends.

Mackay Maxim -- Your network is the best, most empathic, and most credible reflection of your success and your talents.

Mackay Maxim -- If you network hard for thirty-five years and build pivotal contacts in strategic areas of business, you can become an overnight success.

Mackay Maxim -- Most people think they can get by on charm alone. I wouldn’t advise it.

Mackay Maxim --Networking is not a numbers game. The idea is not to see how many people you can meet. The idea is to compile a list of people you can count on.

Mackay Maxim -- The wise person isn’t the one who makes the fewest mistakes. It’s the one who learns the most from them.

Mackay Maxim -- When God closes a door, somewhere God always opens a window.

Mackay Maxim -- You can’t always be an expert. You can’t always know an expert. But you can always hire an expert.

Mackay Maxim -- Your best network will develop from what you do best.

Mackay Maxim -- Prepare to win -- Then prepare to dazzle.

Reprinted from...
Dig Your Well Before You’re Thirsty
The Only Networking Book You’ll Ever Need
by
Harvey Mackay

It's all about You !!!

It's all about you! Having just returned from a Toastmaster's Regional conference this weekend and hearing many motivational speeches, there was a thread that ran through many of them. The thread was "YOU". No, not you, but them. Now you're confused.. When we interview we want to be sure and address "them", the person you are speaking with. When you include them, and ask them and address them they will feel warmer. They will feel you care.
They are much more inclined to listen to you. Of course this happens from your inner depths

So! What troubles you in this quest for your next opportunity?

Why don't you post, in the comments section, what you find most troublesome or painful about this period in your life. Feel free to post what you like.

Web Sites and Blogs

Do you have your own Website and/or Blog? If not why not? Visibility and access are paramount to you being seen by others, especially when you are looking to find your next opportunity. This is like customer service, make it as easy for the customer (your future employer) to find you with as little effort as possible.

Your website is a great place to post several resumes if you care. Place your hobbies or charitable causes on there also. No personal data for contact besides e-mail is suggested. Free websites are available as are free blog sites. Blogs are great for championing your cause, posting useful information for folks With a little research you can find many possibilities.

The goal here is to be visible for those that are looking for you. Potential employers or clients are using the search engines more and more to look you up, so why not make it easy for them.