Dealing with Rejection

November 7, 2009 The Miracle Minute

Dealing with Rejection
Chazz Palminteri, American actor, playwright, and screenwriter said, "Great reviews are the worst. They mislead you more than the bad ones, because they only fuel your ego. Then you only want another one, like potato chips or something, and the best thing you can get from those is fat and bloated." Every action is either an example of what should be done or an example of what not to do. Since all of us began with trial and error awareness, mistakes are made. Yet, mistakes are never a sign of who we are. Mistakes only point toward lessons we should learn. The real error, if there ever is one, is in not learning from the mistakes we've already made. The first thing to consider when rejection occurs is the source. When the source involves honest caring people who know what they're doing, you've got a great chance to learn. When questioned, these people will openly share their reasons and your awareness can grow from the experience. In other cases, when the person or persons involved offer weak excuses, dance around questions and avoid solid answers, hidden agendas are evident. So what can be done with a hidden-agenda person? Listen intently, don't dig deeply into anything they say, and once they've finished thank them. They are not going to suddenly become real. They are not going to share their real reasons. And, attempts to reason with unreasonable people always fail. Once the dust has settled, forget everything they have said and let go of any remaining anger. Self-centered people do self-centered things. Rejection is a good thing when we know how to deal with it.

Dick Warn
Copyright 2009 Richard S. Warn & Associates