Dealing with Rejection

November 7, 2009 The Miracle Minute

Dealing with Rejection
Chazz Palminteri, American actor, playwright, and screenwriter said, "Great reviews are the worst. They mislead you more than the bad ones, because they only fuel your ego. Then you only want another one, like potato chips or something, and the best thing you can get from those is fat and bloated." Every action is either an example of what should be done or an example of what not to do. Since all of us began with trial and error awareness, mistakes are made. Yet, mistakes are never a sign of who we are. Mistakes only point toward lessons we should learn. The real error, if there ever is one, is in not learning from the mistakes we've already made. The first thing to consider when rejection occurs is the source. When the source involves honest caring people who know what they're doing, you've got a great chance to learn. When questioned, these people will openly share their reasons and your awareness can grow from the experience. In other cases, when the person or persons involved offer weak excuses, dance around questions and avoid solid answers, hidden agendas are evident. So what can be done with a hidden-agenda person? Listen intently, don't dig deeply into anything they say, and once they've finished thank them. They are not going to suddenly become real. They are not going to share their real reasons. And, attempts to reason with unreasonable people always fail. Once the dust has settled, forget everything they have said and let go of any remaining anger. Self-centered people do self-centered things. Rejection is a good thing when we know how to deal with it.

Dick Warn
Copyright 2009 Richard S. Warn & Associates

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is tomorow. It is time for you to take a break and gather with family and friends. Count your blessings and share your love.

You may want to reflect back on our ancestors and think what their job search may have looked like. Not at all like what we have today. When you are feeling down and out reflect back to a time when survival was definitely more than a job.

Happy Thanksgiving to all.

Dancing

"When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It's to enjoy each step along the way."— Wayne Dyer: Self-development author and speaker .

Once again a quote, caught by me, made me think of other ways to use it in life. In this case you can see how it would work in the search for your next opportunity. Remember my mantra to "Have fun, Meet people, Learn something.

As you go about your search do be sure and make it fun for you.

What have you done for another?

Have you referred a fellow opportunity hunter to a company or hiring manager? Why not? Just thinking of you?

This is what networking is all about, what you can do for others. The more you network the more you learn and the more people you know. Why not share that with others.

The worse that may happen is some of them won't do the same for you. Remember Mom always said it is better to give than receive.

Now get busy with reticulation and see what you can do for others.

Affirmations

Every morning as you swing out of bed you can say to yourself "There is something out there for me and today I will listen, watch and see if it is today. That one slot that fits both me and them. There could be a spot that fits your talents yet you don't fit their culture so be sure and watch out for this.

Folks have always been let go and recover and return to the work force, it is just a matter of time.

Once again look for what is right. If you find the spot can use your talent yet you aren't comfy with them look for a replacement. You then become and asset.

Are you enhancing your education?

Education comes in many forms, and it relates to learning new material. Learning new information also allows you to be a great resource for referring others. Instead of just learning to be better in a specific field you need to be expanding your landscape of knowledge.

The longer I hear the stories I find that some people lose out because they haven't continued to be versatile and flexible and be able to take on new and different tasks.

Networking is a great start. Now get out there.

Leave(s)

The colors are gorgeous, shapes of the falling leaves are great. As you walk the streets pick one up once in a while and press it between the pages of a book. Leave it for your heirs.

At the same time in your search for that next opportunity be sure and keep your eyes open and ears turned on to find those metaphorical leaves we spoke of. Find what is right out there and move with alacrity to enjoy the positive and share with others. As you share with others you'll find yourself in a more positive mood which will pay you dividends.

So before you leave a conversation be sure you have something right and acknowledged it.

It's November already

OK...OK....So you just finished Halloween and next is Thanks Giving. Nov. 26 will be here before you know it. In addition to making those plans you need to be summing up your year with end of the year meetings, interviews, cards and events to attend.

Don't put off meetings with friends that invite you over. Now is the time to be sure and go. Just work on your answer to that forever question you don't like "What are you doing now" or "Are you back to work yet". You can do it, listen to others you are around.